Making a change: What’s all the fuss about?

Change is scary. It makes us nervous, anxious and unsure. What will happen, what will my life be like if I make a big change to it? What if I start a new career, move house, go travelling, get a pet, start a family, take up a new hobby or ditch negative acquaintances and moving to a different friendship group?

But here’s the thing, change is as necessary as it is frightening, and the confidence to make a change just can’t be taught. It is so easy to maintain the equilibrium, even when you’re not happy. It takes real bravery to look at the aspect of your life that you are unhappy with and follow a different path.

Making a change: What's all the fuss about, why are we all so afraid of change? The more willing we are to embrace change, the more opportunity we all have to find our own 'happy'.Years ago, I was in a real dead-end job and going nowhere. But it wasn’t just a job, the people around me saw it as a career for life. I was expected to stay there, stagnate and wait for it to be my ‘turn’ to be promoted. And in the meantime, just put up with the inane, thoughtless drudgery. But that just wasn’t for me, so I left.

Everyone told me I was making a huge mistake. It was a secure job, the pay wasn’t bad and I didn’t hate it. I kept hearing that going to work and not hating it was as much as I could hope for. Apparently, earning money from doing something that you love was unusual, if not unheard of. A higher manager even sat me down and told me that if I left that job, I’d never earn more than a particular amount.

I knew it was a secure job. But really, who wants to be safe in the knowledge that they’ll be stuck in a dead-end job for the rest of their lives? And that stuff about putting up with a job that I didn’t hate instead of striving for one I loved? I didn’t believe it. And as for the money thing, I knew that was nonsense too but I really didn’t care. Give me happiness over money any day.

So, I jumped ship and found another job. I enjoyed it, the people were great, the work required a bit more brainpower and the hours were notably better. Oh, and within a couple of months I’d been promoted to a role paying quite a bit more than the imaginary ceiling dreamed up by someone who thought he was better than me.

But when I started a family, that role was no longer what I wanted. The commute was too long, I wasn’t seeing my baby and I wasn’t happy. So I quit and started to work from home. Over the past few years, I’ve done a variety of home-based roles. I have run a travel business, done audio typing and eventually migrated towards freelance writing and social media management.

I finally realised that this was what I wanted to do. It suited me, I had to use my brain but I could work whenever I wanted, from wherever I wanted. I could also use both my law degree and my experience in the travel industry, so none of that had been a waste of time. Because ultimately, it got me where I wanted to be – in a job that I love, that suits my lifestyle and my family.

I’m a freelancer so it’s not secure, and it never will be. But I’m happier in my job than I’ve ever been and for once in my life, I wouldn’t change a thing.

10 thoughts on “Making a change: What’s all the fuss about?

  1. Melanie Chadd

    Sometimes we have to be brave. Some people just don’t like change! Look at all the comments we had when we told people we were moving 400 miles away to a new place where we didn’t know anyone etc etc. How many of those people long to be in my shoes now? A lot I would imagine.

    Doesn’t matter how big or small the change, if you think it is a good one or you just need to do something – my advice – DO IT. xx

  2. martyn

    I dislike change. Mostly because of the whole dpd side of things. Changes and I aren’t friends. But as you say it is an necessity. Change has never treated me badly though and that’s the important thing….However that’s often with a lot of hindsight. Not sure when I’m in change that it ever feels like it.
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  3. A Cornish Mum

    Pleased it all worked out for you, I wish I’d known about blogging years ago as it has changed my life so much in the last 14 months in all sorts of good ways, especially in making some amazing friends 😉

    Stevie x
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  4. Debbie

    Hi Natalie, I’ve always put happiness above pay. As a teenager I had my heart set on being a vet, got the grades to get into collage and never went. Instead I got a couple of jobs to save some money, so I could travel and have never looked back. I know we will never have a lot of money, it’s not something we have ever strived for, and as long as we have enough I’m happy. I also know that when I chose to change my path in life people thought I was bonkers (Mum still tells people I should have been a vet – bless her cotton socks).

    Sometimes change is necessary to find out what we want from life and what fulfills us. Making big decisions requires nerve, but if your gut feeling is driving you forward then your decision is probably right for you.

    I am so happy that you have the life you want and are happy with it, maybe one day you’ll feel the need to change things, but until that day be happy.


  5. Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love)

    So glad that you are enjoying what you do now and that your job suits your lifestyle and your family even if it is not so secure. Change can be such a positive thing – encouraging us to try new things. I got made redundant very unexpectedly before Christmas a few years ago and in hindsight, I’m glad it all happened – I spent a few months going self-employed and doing a job I’d dreamed of doing for years but had never been brave enough to take that step towards and we got used to coping on a much lower family income before our children arrived which helped ease the transition into being a stay-at-home mum. Now I work for the family business (which is something I never thought I would end up doing) but I enjoy it and it means I can work completely from home and be there with my children which is perfect. Plus I’ve learned new skills along the way. Change is scary sometimes and can be unsettling but it can also bring lots of opportunity along the way 🙂
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  6. Agent Spitback

    Another inspiring post. Change, for me, is absolutely scary! I know, I hear you, hear your voice but the fear within is really great. The fear i think stems from the fact that I was nearly broken once and I am still healing and I am afraid that if I do take the next change, what if I break again and this time, i can’t pull myself together? Yet I know this is what I have to do. Good on you for making the change!
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