As parents we all look for inspiration, and there’s nothing more inspirational than people who are positive, upbeat and winning at parenthood despite having a tough time themselves. Mim blogs at Love from Mim, a family and lifestyle blog and she is an inspiration for so many people, I’m honoured to feature her on my blog. Here’s Mim with her answers to my somewhat testing questions.
Tell me about the most unexpected change to you as a person or to your life since becoming a parent?
The biggest change is to my personality – since becoming a Mum, I no longer suffer fools! I think it’s something to do with being so time-poor and to a big change in my priorities.
My main focus now is my family, they come first always. I need to look after them and to get things done and that means I have very little time for trivial things or time-wasting.
What has been the biggest challenge you have faced since having children?
In the early days, and occasionally now, it’s the lack of sleep. I love my sleep and I used to love long, lazy lies-ins and that just can’t happen now. My first baby particularly slept so little in the first couple of months and I was just exhausted. I find it so hard to function when I’ve had days on end of no sleep – well I suppose most people do!
What do you regard as your greatest achievement?
Overcoming my fear of childbirth. For years, since I was young, it was my biggest fear but I so desperately wanted to become a Mum that I knew I would somehow have to overcome it and thankfully I discovered Hypnobirthing. It changed my life and I had two very calm and pain-free births. The breathing exercises I learned have helped me in many other areas of my life too at times when I’ve needed to feel less anxious and calmer.
They say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. What hasn’t killed you?
Breast cancer hasn’t killed me and it will not! I was diagnosed with Triple Negative breast cancer in November 2015 and I’ve since had a lumpectomy and I’m undergoing a chemotherapy and radiotherapy treatment plan. It’s been up and down and probably the biggest challenge of my life so far but with the love and support of my amazing family and friends, I’m nearly at the finish line. Sometimes it takes a crisis to jolt you into reassessing your life and I really do now appreciate the good things I have in my life. I’m lucky enough to have a strong and supportive husband, two amazing children and the best army of family and friends anyone could be blessed with!
Who inspires you?
My Mum – always. She’s the strongest woman I know and my best friend. She is there for me always and my children adore her!
I have just invented a time machine (and you thought you’d achieved something great). You can now go backwards or forwards to any point in time and deliver any message to any person, what’s your message and who is it for?
It would be a conversation with my Nanny, my Mum’s Mum. She passed away when I was 11 and I never had the chance to have a real ‘adult’ conversation with her. I’d ask her all about my Mum, what kind of child and young woman she was. I would have loved her to meet my children too, she would have loved them.
You have the opportunity to influence the entrepreneurs of the future. What life changing invention would you like to see on the drawing board?
A cure for cancer, all cancers. That’s the only invention I want! I’m sure we’re close to it, I’d just like to speed up time a little bit and have that available for everyone now.
I have waved a magic wand and all of your responsibilities have been taken care of for 24 hours. What are you going to do?
Oh wow – can you imagine! It would start with a long lie in, followed by a full body massage and a swim in the ocean. Then I’d have my hair and nails done with my best girlfriends and we’d have a long, lazy and boozy lunch followed by a night of karaoke and dancing on tables until the early hours! You see, I’d need the lie in to have the energy to do all of that!
How can parents best be empowered to properly balance a career and a family life?
If at all possible plan ahead, especially in regards to finances. I wish I had saved more money in the years before I became a mother as that would have given us more freedom and flexibility when it was time for me to return to work.
Also think about your childcare options in advance too – do you need to enrol on daycare waiting lists, will your family be able to help out with childcare when you go back to work?
You’re off for a night out tonight. Where will you go, what will you drink and what will be the topic of conversation?
I might have hinted at this in my answer to no. 8! I would go for a lovely Italian meal with my husband and our friends and we would drink Champagne by the bucketload. We will talk about all of the fun things we’ve ever done together – the days and nights out, the holidays, the funny moments. Then we would plan a lovely holiday together to create some amazing new memories together. Then cocktails!
If you haven’t already, do head over and check out Mim’s blog. I’m pretty sure you’re going to love it!