No time for judgement

The past few weeks have been a hideous time for Britain. Terrorists have attacked two of our cities. They have killed, injured and frightened us. And now it seems that they are dividing us. This is the time to stick together. There should be only two sides. The people who did this, and the rest of us standing united against them. There is no time for judgement.

Embrace our differences or we will never be united

When things like this happen, it is essential to remember that we all deal with things differently. Every time I look at social media I see another quote or meme telling me how I should react. Some say not to let them frighten us because we need to be strong. Others say not to change the way you live your life because that’s what they want. And another group tell us that they are afraid and they need to express that, because they care.

We all care. Every one of us has our own way of coping. Some take to social media to express their condolences or their fears. Others use it as a platform to share how they think we should deal with the current security situation. Some feel it is an appropriate time to raise their political agenda because they believe that the politicians they vote for will put this right. Still more just want to put one foot in front of the other and quietly keep on going. And that’s their prerogative, it’s how they cope.

And yet, a minority of people have turned towards hatred. There’s blame. Groups of our society are targeted because of their background, beliefs, religion or ethnic origin. Or because they are different. People like to have someone to blame when something goes wrong. It’s human nature, but this is not the time.

Save your judgement for a more appropriate time

The only people who are to blame here are the attackers and those who helped them or covered for them. This is not the fault of the police, the security services or the government. It is certainly not the responsibility of members of the population who identify with the same religion as the attackers. Or those who live on the same street, or who were born in the same country. Whether that country is Britain or elsewhere.

And neither should we judge people for the way they react to the attack. The fact that someone doesn’t express their feelings about it on social media doesn’t mean they don’t care. The same goes for whether they can talk about nothing else in conversation or prefer not to mention it. It is just the way they cope. The person who carries on tweeting cat gifs or posting to Facebook about work may be waiting anxiously for news of a loved one. So, they keep going. Quietly putting one foot in front of the other. Trying not to think about it. Don’t judge them.

The person who writes about their grief for their city, for their country is not furthering their own ends or belittling the atrocities. Writing is their coping mechanism. They don’t need your judgement, they need your support.

The British spirit

Blame is natural, judgement is natural but now is not the time. Now is the time to stand together and look for the good. In the lead up to the general election and with Brexit on the cards, we are politically divided. Terrorists are using this to drive us further apart and it’s working.

In the media there were photographs of people fleeing the terrorist incident crying and panicking. Because that is a natural human reaction. And then there was the iconic image of a man walking calmly away drinking his pint. Because we are British, and when things go wrong we carry on.

This is not the time for judgement. It is not the time for blame. Now is the time to embrace our differences and stand united.

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17 Comments

  1. June 5, 2017 / 10:56 am

    Well said Nat. I was out in London on Saturday night, not far from the attack, and the difference in people’s responses was striking. Some were panicking, others (like me) were doggedly trying to get home. These are terrifying times, but hate is never the answer.

    • monsterid June 5, 2017 / 6:51 pm

      Oh gosh, I’m sorry you were caught up in that Nell. I’m glad you got home safely.
      Nat.x

  2. June 5, 2017 / 11:45 am

    I agree. This isn’t the time for judgement – it’s a time to try and unite and stay strong. Everyone deals with these kinds of things in their own way. Attacking others for the way they respond, for thinking differently, for expressing an opinion is not the answer. In all honesty, I’m not entirely sure what the answer is but it certainly isn’t to fight hate with hate x

    • monsterid June 5, 2017 / 6:48 pm

      I agree, I don’t know what the answer is either, but this isn’t it.
      Nat.x

    • monsterid June 5, 2017 / 6:40 pm

      Thank you Sarah, that’s so kind of you to say.
      Nat.x

  3. June 5, 2017 / 9:24 pm

    Wise words Nat! No one knows what the answer is and no one really knows what to do. But we shouldn’t stand together and unite that bit we do. x

    • monsterid June 5, 2017 / 9:26 pm

      Thank you Laura, we should definitely stand together.
      Nat.x

    • monsterid June 11, 2017 / 7:49 am

      Thank you, I wish everyone felt the same.
      Nat.x

  4. June 9, 2017 / 5:28 pm

    This is really well written Nat and expresses my sentiments over social media and people’s reactions perfectly. I sense so much hatred and judgement for one another at the moment – not just over this but all the political debates too. We all feel fearful I imagine and that comes out in different ways in different people. We do need to be united.

    • monsterid June 11, 2017 / 7:31 am

      Thank you Suzanne, it is sad that there is so much hate when we’d be so much stronger standing together.
      Nat.x

    • monsterid June 11, 2017 / 7:28 am

      You’re right, I think it’s natural to judge people who do things differently to us but we really shouldn’t as we never know the facts.
      Nat.x

  5. June 12, 2017 / 8:11 am

    It is definitely scary when there are so many attacks, but you’re completely right. There should be no blame on anyone but those who carried out and helped with the attacks. Everyone copes differently. x

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