Learning about siblings

When I was growing up, I was essentially an only child. My oldest sister came along when I was 10, swiftly followed by two more sisters and a brother.

I’ve always got on well with my siblings and I’m immensely proud of them all.Watching them all grow up and become intelligent, kind, caring individuals has been a real honour. Libby and Lia are lucky to have such amazing uncle and aunts. 

It is an odd thing though being a half sister. I wouldn’t say that we had a normal sibling relationship, purely because I have never lived with any of them, as they lived with my dad and I lived with my mum. 

So when Lia came along, I really was learning about siblings from scratch. I had no idea how Libby would react to her baby sister. I didn’t know whether she would love her, resent her or show little interest in her. 

There were two reasons why I wanted to have children who were quite close in age. Firstly for my own selfish reasons – I hate being pregnant and I don’t cope well with young babies.

My own life is so restricted and I love being able to get out running and swimming and having time to myself. So, quite frankly, I wanted to get the baby stage out of the way for both of them and get on with my life. 

Predominantly though, I wanted the children to be close in age so that they would grow up together, and hopefully become close to each other and enjoy each other’s company. I was often quite lonely growing up so I didn’t want to have just one child. 

It has been quite a revelation to me how well the girls get on, especially at such a young age. We had a perfect example of this the other day. 

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You may have read in my Thursday Photo post this week that Lia is mobile and has a strange habit of getting into, under and on things. The problem is, she then gets stuck. 

One morning this week, I left the girls in their bedroom while I went to get their washing bag from downstairs. By the time I was on my way back upstairs, Libby came running out of the bedroom in floods of tears shouting, “Can you get Lia? Quick, get her!”

Lia wasn’t actually in any immediate danger, or indeed any danger at all. She had just crawled under a chest of drawers, as she is prone to doing. She then got a bit upset when she couldn’t get out. 

What surprised me was how much it upset Libby. I didn’t expect to see her showing so much genuine empathy for somebody else at such a young age. 

I’m looking forward to a time when Lia is old enough to be able to play with Libby properly, I hope they will be great company for each other. 

For now though, I’m enjoying learning about the sibling bond and watching them become the best of friends. 

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  1. Rae
    January 25, 2015 / 6:37 pm

    Great post! So many people tried to talk me out of my expectation that siblings could get along well, but I knew they could do it. Took a little work, but now they have a wonderful bond which I hope will last their whole lives 🙂

    • monsterid January 25, 2015 / 7:08 pm

      Thank you Rae. Glad to hear that yours get along so well, I am hoping for just the same for my two.x

  2. January 26, 2015 / 12:02 pm

    Awesome post.

    I have an older brother but there is a 5 year difference. It was always strange because we never, and still don’t, have a sibling relationship. Although we do get on it isn’t something that I experienced as a lose relationship.

    My two have a 2 year difference and, like you, it’s amazing to see. They are immensely close. They fight like cat and dog and will use each other as a punch bag but they are also nest of friends. You ask them who their best friend is and they’ll say each other.

    They team up against me. If ones been good and wants a treat they refuse to take it unless the other one gets one. And they massively look after each other. Both boys have experienced bullying in some way and when they stand next to each other the confidence oozes they could take on the world.

    I am so pleased to see this it fills my heart with love and pride. But I also know that this will never change.

    • monsterid January 26, 2015 / 9:49 pm

      Thank you Martyn. That’s interesting about the age gap between you and your brother, that makes me more glad that I’ve had my two in quick succession. I’m so glad your two are close, and it’s great that they look after each other and that you know they always will. I hope my two are the same as they get older.x

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