So close but yet so far…

A few weeks ago, Libby took her first unaided steps. Only six or seven steps, but she did it quite a few times during the course of a week. Since then, we’ve had a few steps here or there but she really seems to have lost her confidence. 

We do loads of walking practice every day (at her request). She even walks around the block just holding one of my hands. We have bought her a little rucksack that doubles as reins and for a while, she was quite happily walking around with one of us holding onto the rucksack rather than her hand. Now though, she has become really clingy, refusing to take more than a couple of steps without holding on. 

I know that she can do it, her balance is amazing. Today, against her better judgement, she followed me across the room, walking totally on her own. She didn’t really want to do it though and was pretty much running to catch up with me to hold on. 

The odd thing about it is that walking is all she has ever wanted to do. Since the age of about 2 months old, she has wanted to be upright, by 3 months she was moving her legs to walk whenever somebody was willing to hold her up. Even now, she wants to walk everywhere with someone holding her hand. 

Has anybody else experienced this? What do you recommend? Should I stop trying to get her to walk on her own and just let her hold hands all the time? I’m guessing I probably should but I also keep feeling like I should show her that she can do it. 

I’m a first time mum and generally things are going really well, but on this has got me stumped so I would really appreciate any advice! 



  1. Ciara
    May 8, 2013 / 9:29 pm

    I would hold her hand. She is looking for that little bit of confidence from holding on to you. How old is Libby? She looks quite young so still has ages until she “should” be walking anyway!

    • Natalie Ray
      May 8, 2013 / 9:38 pm

      Thank you Ciara, I think I will do that. Yeah she’s nearly 11 months but it’s just the sudden lack of confidence that worries me more than the not walking, I know she’s got ages before she needs to walk.x

  2. Marianne Hopwood
    May 8, 2013 / 9:41 pm

    Toby took his first unaided steps at 10 months, whereas my friend’s little girl didn’t even crawl but at 18 months got up and walked by herself. There’s no ‘normal’ where kids are involved 🙂 I also found that my boys would master a skill, only to regress at it while they focused on another new skill. Potty training was a good example of this with Ollie – he’d use it for a couple of weeks, then not, then use it again from when he was 2 to just before he turned 3.

    • Natalie Ray
      May 8, 2013 / 9:44 pm

      Thanks Maz. Libby was 10 months for her first few steps too, it’s the regression that’s frustrating and a bit worrying isn’t it? That’s reassuring for me that your two do it too though, your boys are so incredibly bright!x

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