Life is short, live harder

Every now and then, life throws you a curve ball. A timely reminder that life is short, life is precious and we need to make the most of every single moment. Since having children, I’ve been finding it really difficult to get any time for me. Time to do the things I enjoy; keep fit, go travelling and even go out with friends. Money has been a bit of an issue because I have been so determined to spend all the time I can with the children, that work had to happen when they were either out or asleep. This…

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The negative impact of tiredness

Since having children, I have been pretty much permanently tired. I know I’m not the only one, I’m not sure I’ve ever met a refreshed, energised parent of young children. There have been a few times since Libby came along when I have reached a point of feeling close to exhaustion. I was in hospital for several days before having both girls, as I was induced both times. The lack of sleep during induction meant that the snatched few hours here and there when I’d had the baby and come home felt like absolute bliss. Then came the difficult times…

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Making a change: What’s all the fuss about?

Change is scary. It makes us nervous, anxious and unsure. What will happen, what will my life be like if I make a big change to it? What if I start a new career, move house, go travelling, get a pet, start a family, take up a new hobby or ditch negative acquaintances and moving to a different friendship group? But here’s the thing, change is as necessary as it is frightening, and the confidence to make a change just can’t be taught. It is so easy to maintain the equilibrium, even when you’re not happy. It takes real bravery…

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Dear mum, you’re doing a good job

Dear mum, I see you every day, though you don’t know I’m watching. I know how hard you work to make sure I have everything I need. At home, we all play games, bake cakes or watch TV. Sometimes, we do colouring, paint or play outside. We go on days out to lovely places. We go on holiday too and have such a fantastic time, just being together as a family. I know you look after the pets and the house and garden, cook for us, clean, tidy and do our washing. I know that when we’re poorly, we ask for you…

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In defence of boundaries

We have come so far from the terrible times that my dad tells me about when he was a child. He and his brothers would be beaten by the teachers simply for having a German surname. Even when I was young, it was considered acceptable for parents to smack their children who were misbehaving. These days, such punishment is quite rightly frowned upon. Increasingly, the focus is on raising well rounded, confident children. Giving them the building blocks to one day function as strong, independent adults. Many people go as far as to avoid using certain words to their offspring,…

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