A letter to a busy mum

Dear mum, Please mum, stop a minute for me. Dad says you’re busy. He says you work hard until late at night when I’m asleep. He says there’s lots to do around the house and you’re trying to look after us children as well. Dad says I can’t come and see you because you’re working. I don’t know what that means, so I sneak up to your office. I try to talk to you, ask you to read me a story or take me to the park. We could go for a bike ride or run around the fields. We could…

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Friendship: What does it really mean?

A few weeks ago, I saw a post on Facebook that really annoyed me. It was just one of these ridiculous posters that people share without thinking. Or maybe they did think about it, maybe they really meant it. Either way, It annoyed me so much that weeks later, I’m still furious. Here’s what it said: “People make time for who they want to make time for. People text, call and reply to people they want to talk to. Never believe anyone who says they’re too busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would.” Whoever wrote this has…

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Tomorrow I’ll be a better mum

To my beautiful girls, You are the last thing I think about at night when I try to get some sleep. I think about all the times that day when I’ve raised my voice to you. All the times I’ve had to work when you wanted me to play. I think about how quickly you’re growing up, how much you are changing. And about the things I miss when I’m not with you. I remember the times when you’ve been trying to get my attention whilst I’ve been talking or doing something. And the times you’ve asked to paint, bake…

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Blogging: 5 tips to get you started

People often ask me how to start a blog. I think back to what a complicated process it was and what an enormous number of mistakes I made along the way. So, here are 5 things I wish I’d known when I started blogging. 1. Know your topic When I first decided to write a blog, it was tied into my work. I had no idea where to start – I didn’t even know what to write about. After several false starts, I fell into writing a very generic parenting blog. These days, I have a bit of a focus on travel, days…

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Job description v Reality. Role: Mother

I worked in recruitment in various guises for several years. I always found that the more honest a company was with their job advert, the more successful they would be in finding the ideal candidate. And yet, for the toughest and most important job in the world, you never hear the truth before applying. Job description part 1 – Pregnancy: Responsibilities: Grow a small person inside you for nine months whilst taking plenty of rest. Uniform: Immaculate maternity clothing. Appearance: Blooming. Hair: Thick and healthy. Size: increasing steadily for nine months. Drawbacks: You may feel slightly nauseous first thing in…

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Trials and tribulations of a work at home mum

When I started my first job working from home, it was a bit of a novelty. I was vaguely aware that it was possible to work full time from home, but before having children it never really crossed my mind. The past few weeks since my husband’s accident, I’ve experienced both the best and worst parts of working from home. The thing with being a freelancer is that there’s no respite. When I was driving an hour each way to and from the hospital every day, I still had to find the time to work. There was no respite, no…

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News on twitter: Too much too soon?

I don’t imagine I’ll be blogging much over the coming weeks. I won’t lie, the last couple of days have been tough. Yesterday, my husband was late home from work. His motorbike wasn’t there when I got back from taking the girls to a dance class. I thought he must have been held up at work, so I got the girls in and started cooking tea. As time passed, I realised that inconsiderate though he is at times, I would probably have heard if he’d been that late finishing work. So, I gave him a call. He didn’t answer, so…

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