The overwhelming urge to do nothing

I had an interesting conversation with my husband yesterday. Yes, we do speak to each other. Occasionally it’s interesting. Okay rarely. Well, just this once. 

Anyway, he made the wild and unsubstantiated allegation that I am “Constantly fighting an overwhelming urge to do nothing.”

Which, I would suggest, is a brave thing for any man to say to his wife. 

And far be it from me to shy away from criticism, I’m the first to admit that I am generally a bit crap at life. But it does strike me that doing nothing probably isn’t something I can be accused of. 

I have two children, two dogs, one cat, three freelancing jobs, one blog and no childcare. I do my utmost to fit in exercise on top of all that, but must admit it often goes out of the window. 

I tend to have a long list of things in my head that I ought to do if I ever get the time. Shopping I need to do, information I should find out, weight I could do with losing or people I ought to contact or visit. 

There’s also the self-indulgent list that contains items like soaking in the bath, getting my hair cut, having a good night’s sleep or going out for a drink. 

I’ve never really thought that “doing nothing” featured high on my list. 

And yet, now that I consider it, if I had a whole 24 hours to myself, what would I actually do? 

Guilt would probably lead me to tick off some of the things on my “ought to do” list. There are also a number of things I’d do around the house. 

Lia’s clothes need sorting out and the ones that don’t fit her need to go to the charity shop. 

Both girls could do with new clothes and shoes, so I’d probably do some shopping. 

When we went to Bluestone, I had a spa morning. It was fabulous and I’d love to do it again, so if I did manage to find some time for me, I might head to our local spa and treat myself to a day there and some lunch. 

I’d like to get some exercise too, perhaps a really good swimming session or even find time to get back into water polo training. 

Although I do it every day, I’d still want to get out for a walk with the dogs, I always enjoy it, especially if I manage to get out without the children. 

I find that walking makes me notice things around me, the blossom for example. 

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But that’s more than 24 hours worth of things to do, I’m getting carried away. 

So if I wouldn’t have much hope of getting my home in order or ticking everything off my to do list, what would I actually do with my 24 hours?

Now that I think about it, perhaps I do have an overwhelming urge to do nothing. I genuinely think that I could spend 24 hours in bed. 

I don’t think I’d even eat for a whole day. I’d just catch up on 3 years worth of sleep and maybe drink the odd cup of tea. 

Luckily, I think that in around 17 years I’ll probably be able to satisfy my overwhelming urge to do nothing. 

But until then, I’m denying all knowledge. 



  1. April 13, 2015 / 9:33 pm

    I said almost exactly the same thing yo my husband at the weekend – just to be able to freeze time for 24h and stop. Bliss. I might not even get out of bed.

    • monsterid April 13, 2015 / 10:08 pm

      Ah glad it’s not me. I’d love to stay in bed all day 🙂

  2. April 13, 2015 / 9:42 pm

    Ok. The first thing I need to address here: Did hubby, in his brave state of mind, suggest this statement at a legal safe distance? 😉

    I think it’s completely plausible to have 24 hrs of doing nothing. That being said is it possible to do is to without the things that you list especially guilt coming in? No, I don’t think so.

    I plan a day at least once a month where I do nothing. And when I say nothing I mean I do more things for me. But oh how I regret it the following day. Yes, for a brief time in regrets enjoyable but then reality hits and washing, clothes, blog, dog, tidying and the endless things on my to do list (which I’m pretty sure is just there to make me feel guilty) suddenly seems a more overwhelming event.

    It would in an ideal world be lovely. But it’s not as straight forward as possible. And my life isn’t full time as yours is, I do have the ‘potential’ to do nothing when I don’t have the boys.

    Interestingly id want to know what hubby would do if he had that time.

    In any doubt I think sleep would be the best choice! Last night I left worrying for your safety so I suppose it’s right for me tonight to leave worrying about hubs safety 😉

    • monsterid April 13, 2015 / 10:07 pm

      Haha good point on the safety issue! I think he was making the point that I am more inclined to do sod all than him. He’d have me believe he’d do something wholesome like exercise or clean the house. I think we’d all just catch up on sleep if we’re totally honest 😉

  3. April 14, 2015 / 6:43 am

    Oh how I wish I could have at least an hour to my self! Even my lunch time at work consists of me doing things for others, I am so busy with work and my children that I feel that if I have some time to my self in being selfish. There are so many other things that need doing around the house and with my boys.
    Sometimes I try to close the door to my bedroom and lay in the quietness but that lasts for a few minutes before one of my boys follows and joins me.
    My OH is always Asking me what I do with my time, he seems to forget that I have a full time job as well as looking after 3 boys (but he manages to go out each evening for 3 hours to train)
    Hope you find some guilt free time for a lay on x

    • monsterid April 14, 2015 / 9:31 am

      Yes, I totally get that. I see hubby getting frustrated when he’s looking after the girls because they are hard work. He doesn’t seem to understand that they’re always like it. I also feel like he begrudges me the time when I’m working, particularly when there is something that he wants to do. I hope you manage to find some time to yourself too Angela.x

  4. April 14, 2015 / 7:52 pm

    oh i would love a day of just doing nothing , i think i would be the same and try and catch up on years worth of missing sleep and try and actually drink a hot cup of tea in peace. Well that is if i can manage to ignore the housework xx

    • monsterid April 14, 2015 / 8:12 pm

      It’s actually really difficult to think what you’d do isn’t it? It seems like such an impossibility that it might ever happen 😉

  5. Mel
    April 16, 2015 / 8:23 pm

    The do nothing hours/day dream is a lovely one isn’t it x

  6. April 8, 2016 / 8:06 am

    I can totally relate to this blog, wanting to do nothing, sounds so appealing xx

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