Bank holidays before and after children

I think there are times when parents speak a different language to everyone else. Bank holidays are one of those times when certain phrases have very, very different meanings before and after having children. Here’s a quick guide.  1. I’m looking forward to the bank holiday Before children: I love getting drunk on Sunday nights and not going into work with a hangover.  After children: An extra day away from the office is always welcome.  2. I’m going to a music festival Before children: I intend to spend the weekend drunk and dancing to great music. After children: I’ll probably go and listen to…

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Eating out with children

I recently noticed this article about a restaurant who were criticised and even threatened for banning “small, screaming children”. Apparently, there are parents everywhere who are outraged by both the ban on children and the way it was worded.  I am not one of them.  Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t go to this restaurant even if it wasn’t as far away as Nova Scotia. But that’s because it’s a lobster restaurant, not because they don’t want screaming children in there.  I take my children to restaurants. Actually, they’ve been to some rather nice restaurants. This morning I even took the two…

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Where does negativity come from?

I’ve noticed today, as I do most days, that negativity is everywhere.  Take blogging as an example. I am fully aware that I’m going to be slated for daring to write this. But seriously, who the hell do we think we are?  I am a (rather passive) member of a few blogging groups on Facebook, where PR’s and companies offer opportunities to bloggers.  Conversations are also posted about emails that people have had from PR’s who have offered bloggers something which, quite frankly, is deemed offensive.  I understand the frustration, really I do. I write for a living and I know that…

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Thinking about holidays

After a fabulous and unexpected holiday at Bluestone in January this year, we’ve been a bit reticent in getting around to booking or planning our breaks for the summer.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ve never been one for booking holidays early. In fact, I’m a bit of a last minute wonder. Hubby is definitely the organised one, he’s a bit of a stress head when it comes to getting things done.  The time we spent at Bluestone has put a completely different perspective on holidays for us though, and made us reconsider the sort of thing that we will all…

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Our Thursday Photo #43

This week, for some reason things seem to have fallen into place.  Lia has been sleeping a lot better for a while now, but I hadn’t really managed to make the most of it and get my own life in order. I was still working until around 2 am most nights, sometimes even later.  So, towards the end of last week I decided to cut down on my work for a few days. I didn’t stop completely, but took on notably less for four days. We didn’t go away or do anything in particular, I just got back into a…

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We treat them both the same

I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve heard people say, “I don’t know why my first and second child behave so differently, we treat them both the same.” Really, do you?  My first baby had my full, undivided attention for the first three months of her life. I was there to attend to her every whim, as us mums do when we are cooing over our first born.  Then I went back to work when she was three months old. She started having to be formula fed during the day and looked after by either me, her Nan or…

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The role model

All children need role models. Some things can only be learned by example and you teach them better than I ever could.  You have gone through so much, more hardship than most of us could cope with in a lifetime. Yet you are so young in years and you’ve put it all behind you. You teach my children about hope.  They see you put the day’s problems to sleep with the setting sun and wake in the morning full of the joys of a new day. And in that day you live for the moment and make every minute count.…

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