Parenting manuals versus maternal instinct

Almost every day, I read about or speak to someone who has sage advice from a parenting manual.  The advice is never the same twice.  Your baby should be sleeping through the night, leave it to cry. You’re emotionally damaging your baby, don’t let it cry. Your baby is too skinny, use formula. Your baby is obese, feed it less.  You’re not interacting with your baby enough, it will be developmentally delayed. You’re over-stimulating your baby, it won’t sleep.  Your child is too whiny, you’re mollycoddling it. You’re not letting your child cry, you’re damaging it emotionally. Your child has too…

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To the decision makers of 2015 from the children of 2045

The date is 26 May 2045 and I am 15 years old. I was born in 2030, 15 years from the time you are in now. The end of my time in school is in sight and soon I will have to think about where to go to university and what job I want to do. My choices are very different to yours.  This morning at school, we had double science. I think that physics lessons were different when you were in school. People of your time knew that Einstein’s theory of relativity opened up the possibility of time travel. …

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Bank holidays before and after children

I think there are times when parents speak a different language to everyone else. Bank holidays are one of those times when certain phrases have very, very different meanings before and after having children. Here’s a quick guide.  1. I’m looking forward to the bank holiday Before children: I love getting drunk on Sunday nights and not going into work with a hangover.  After children: An extra day away from the office is always welcome.  2. I’m going to a music festival Before children: I intend to spend the weekend drunk and dancing to great music. After children: I’ll probably go and listen to…

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Eating out with children

I recently noticed this article about a restaurant who were criticised and even threatened for banning “small, screaming children”. Apparently, there are parents everywhere who are outraged by both the ban on children and the way it was worded.  I am not one of them.  Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t go to this restaurant even if it wasn’t as far away as Nova Scotia. But that’s because it’s a lobster restaurant, not because they don’t want screaming children in there.  I take my children to restaurants. Actually, they’ve been to some rather nice restaurants. This morning I even took the two…

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Where does negativity come from?

I’ve noticed today, as I do most days, that negativity is everywhere.  Take blogging as an example. I am fully aware that I’m going to be slated for daring to write this. But seriously, who the hell do we think we are?  I am a (rather passive) member of a few blogging groups on Facebook, where PR’s and companies offer opportunities to bloggers.  Conversations are also posted about emails that people have had from PR’s who have offered bloggers something which, quite frankly, is deemed offensive.  I understand the frustration, really I do. I write for a living and I know that…

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