We need to talk about living the dream

It’s nearly midnight and I’m sat in front of my laptop. I’ve got a blog post to write, photos to take and social media to schedule. My phone pings and it’s a message from a friend. It kicks off yet another conversation about how I have the dream job. I work from home, I’m there for my children and the whole thing can be pretty exciting. But there are a few things you need to know about living the dream. It’s not a dream – it’s real life There’s no silver lining or fuzzy edges. My house is a tip and…

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Finding extra hours in the day

The main reason I chose to become self-employed was to allow me to be there for my family. I’ve worked hard to get to a point where I’m freelancing in roles that are both fulfilling and flexible. At the end of 2016 I finally felt like I’d got there and I was looking forward to getting into a routine in 2017. I’d decided that this year I’d be more organised with my blogging. I had a schedule, aims and objectives and I knew what I needed to do and when. But nothing ever goes quite to plan does it?  On New Year’s…

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A letter to a busy mum

Dear mum, Please mum, stop a minute for me. Dad says you’re busy. He says you work hard until late at night when I’m asleep. He says there’s lots to do around the house and you’re trying to look after us children as well. Dad says I can’t come and see you because you’re working. I don’t know what that means, so I sneak up to your office. I try to talk to you, ask you to read me a story or take me to the park. We could go for a bike ride or run around the fields. We could…

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Trials and tribulations of a work at home mum

When I started my first job working from home, it was a bit of a novelty. I was vaguely aware that it was possible to work full time from home, but before having children it never really crossed my mind. The past few weeks since my husband’s accident, I’ve experienced both the best and worst parts of working from home. The thing with being a freelancer is that there’s no respite. When I was driving an hour each way to and from the hospital every day, I still had to find the time to work. There was no respite, no…

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I haven’t got time

I hear a lot in the media about work-life balance. It’s often based around parents. Balancing work, childcare, family time and time to yourself is virtually impossible as a parent. I’ve interviewed seven amazing people now in my Inspirational Parents series. I’ve asked them all about their theories around work-life balance. Sadly nobody has come up with a miracle solution – other than asking for help. That’s really not my style so when I need to take on more work, something else has to give. Now that I’ve stopped everything else, the only way I can fit more working hours…

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I wish I was that mother

I wish I was that mother. You know, the beautiful one with the perfect hair and makeup. I wish I was that mother who arrives for ballet class on time. I wish I was that mother who takes her child to an eye test at the hospital – and actually remembers to bring their glasses. I wish I was that mother with the tidy, immaculate house and the full fridge. I wish I was that mother who gets invited to parties. I wish I was that mother who has the time to sit down in the evenings with a glass…

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I found the pot of gold

Since having Lia, I feel like I’ve been in a constant battle against time.  For many months, Lia wasn’t sleeping well. As I’m freelance, I had to start working again pretty quickly after I’d had her. I did reduce my hours dramatically, but didn’t stop completely. And pretty soon the time came when I needed to pick my hours right up again.  Unfortunately, that time came long before Lia started sleeping through the night. I ended up working until the early hours, then being up twice in the night before the girls got me up in the morning.  By the…

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