Close friends are overrated

Do you ever look back on your youth and wonder what happened to all the friendships you spent so long nurturing? According to a survey by Relate, more than one in eight of us has no close friends. They suspect this to be due to the rise in social media usage and the decline in work-life balance. Nearly half of adults reported being lonely some of the time. But how much of this is due to social expectation rather than a genuine need for companionship? It might be an unpopular opinion, but I think close friends are overrated. A decreasing…

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A reason a season or a lifetime

I am a constant source of disappointment to my surprisingly sociable husband. Don’t worry, I’m not oversharing about a serious issue in our marriage. We simply have rather different ideas about friendship. A reason, a season or a lifetime There is a quote about people coming into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I think on face value this is a bit callous. There doesn’t need to be a reason to be around someone, enjoying their company is enough. And yet, there is some logic in it, when you take it to it’s simplest form. The…

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The truth about friendship

As a child, I would hear people talking about friendships dwindling into adulthood. It seemed ridiculous. Of course I’d keep in touch with my friends. Every friendship was important to me so why wouldn’t I? And to an extent, I did. Not so many years ago, I had a group of friends I’d see every now and then. There were others I’d keep in touch with – a phone call here and an occasional meet up there. At Christmas, we’d send a card or buy a gift. When we got together, it was like we’d never been apart. The laughter flowed and we talked about…

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Friendship: What does it really mean?

A few weeks ago, I saw a post on Facebook that really annoyed me. It was just one of these ridiculous posters that people share without thinking. Or maybe they did think about it, maybe they really meant it. Either way, It annoyed me so much that weeks later, I’m still furious. Here’s what it said: “People make time for who they want to make time for. People text, call and reply to people they want to talk to. Never believe anyone who says they’re too busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would.” Whoever wrote this has…

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Pick up the phone

So often, I read that it’s not important to have so many friends as you get older. I don’t disagree with the sentiment, of course there’s no shame in choosing your friends carefully. But I want to explain what growing out of friends really means. It’s so easy to lose touch with people as time goes by. When you have children, it becomes even more difficult to find time for your friends. But if you’re currently going down this path and find yourself speaking to old buddies less and less frequently, here are a few things to consider. One day, you’ll get to a…

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