The posture of parenting

Within the daily struggle of parenthood, being me has become my biggest battle. Last week, I was looking at my children playing at my feet when I had a sudden moment of realisation. I spend an inordinate amount of time with my head down. Watching the girls, looking at my laptop or phone, preparing food. Always with my head bowed, hunched forward. A posture that, to an outsider, might suggest that I was sad, shy or lacking in confidence. The power of body language Years ago, a social psychologist called Amy Cuddy gave a TED talk on body language. It…

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What determines whether large organisations have a corporate conscience?

Waking in a panic in the early hours of the morning has become normal. The overdraft limit is looming yet again, as it does for freelancers everywhere. But this time, it’s different. It’s not about lack of work, because I’ve got plenty. A small company or an individual unable to pay hasn’t caused the problem. It’s the global conglomerates and their unwillingness to pay on time. Why do many large organisations lack corporate conscience? Well, I have this theory. Small companies tend to have one or two employees. The company owner plays a big part in keeping the business going.…

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Breaking down taboos and why it matters

Do you have one of THOSE friends? She’s the one who knows your darkest secrets. She’s laughed with you, cried with you and been there when it mattered. You tell her all your problems, but do you talk to her about things you’d rather keep quiet? Like that time when you were bouncing on a trampoline with the kids and… Breaking down the taboo of bladder weakness Bladder weakness is one of those things we’d rather not talk about. Actually, we’d rather it just didn’t happen. But it really shouldn’t be a taboo subject, because it impacts on so many…

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Taking time to relax with Go Binge

The girls cuddled up on the sofa under a blanket clutching their bags of popcorn. My concerns about spending the evening cleaning it up off the floor slowly dissipated. Their trusty dog lay at their feet, ready to hoover up any stray scraps before they became part of the carpet. And I realised we should have done this months ago. A late night, chilling together as a family. Watching crap on television and taking time to relax. Getting it wrong It’s rare for us to do nothing. During term time, we’re busy running from one activity to the next. Ballet,…

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How Ronald McDonald House keeps families together

We walked into the communal room and the children made a beeline for a playroom and some craft tables. Volunteers from a local company were running a Halloween event for residents to make masks and decorations. One of many opportunities for children to retain some form of normality during their family’s darkest hour. What is Ronald McDonald House? Every parent knows that sinking feeling you get when your child is ill. You see their suffering, but there’s nothing you can do to help them. And so you wait, helpless, for them to get better. That feeling must be multiplied hundreds…

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What would we do without grandparents?

One of the best things about working from home is being with the children in school holidays. But the problem is, work doesn’t stop. In fact, half term is looking fairly busy for me. And we’re not in a financial position to turn work down. Grandparents to the rescue I’ve already scheduled in a few brilliant days out for the girls next week. The problem is, most of my days out are related to the blog, so I’ll need to write them up afterwards. What with the other work I have on, it’s going to be manic. Luckily, the girls…

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10 tips for cutting the cost of Christmas

This is a collaborative post. It’s not just presents that end up costing a fortune at Christmas. Although with children and family to buy for, spending on gifts soon adds up. But it’s the other stuff too. Like the fact that I see it as a personal challenge to make sure that there are no mince pies left at the end of any day. Which means buying more the next day. I estimate my mince pie costs alone to be in the region of £29,384,795 per year. Well, maybe not quite that much. But you get the gist. So, I’ve…

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