A gateway to the future

Something strange happened to me the other day. I was walking the dogs across our local field when I noticed the sky. You could see the sun behind the clouds, so it looked quite pretty. But then I realised that where the clouds stopped, so did the sun. It looked like a seam across the sky. A gateway to another world – or to the future perhaps? What is going on in this area? If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you might be aware that this isn’t the first time something odd has happened to me. But what…

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Am I teaching my children to be argumentative?

Am I taking the wrong approach to disagreement? Let’s face it, even the word itself has negative connotations. Awkward, argumentative, feisty, disagreeable, obtuse. We discourage our children from disagreeing. Don’t answer back, do as you’re told. Don’t argue with me. And yet, I want my children to disagree. In fact, I believe it is one of the most important skills they can learn. Should children be taught to disagree? I know, it’s a strange concept. After all, children do nothing but disagree. They never want to do as they’re told and the whining – oh, don’t even talk to me about…

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Living in her shadow

My eldest daughter is a little whirlwind of energy. The confident, adventurous trailblazer that all firstborns are. But does it come at a price? Because at every activity, day out, sports event and party there is a little figure two steps behind her, trying to keep up. The trouble with being the second child The problem with being the second child is that by the time you turn up, someone has already cornered the market. They’ve wrapped your parents around their little finger and paved their way in the world. They’ve got friends, hobbies and habits that you just have…

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No time for judgement

The past few weeks have been a hideous time for Britain. Terrorists have attacked two of our cities. They have killed, injured and frightened us. And now it seems that they are dividing us. This is the time to stick together. There should be only two sides. The people who did this, and the rest of us standing united against them. There is no time for judgement. Embrace our differences or we will never be united When things like this happen, it is essential to remember that we all deal with things differently. Every time I look at social media I…

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Permission to be happy

This is a collaborative post. A few weeks ago, I wrote about how I want my daughters to know that they are enough. Which got me thinking. The girls are so young at the moment that they wouldn’t understand the sentiment of my post even if I read it to them. Realistically it will be a good few years before they can read and understand it. But will that be too late? Being the example Three and four year olds don’t learn by reading information. It’s arguable that they only take in a limited amount of what they’re told. They learn…

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My daughters you are enough

I know that when my children are older, speaking to them about the serious stuff will be tough. And there are a few things I want them to know that they might not want to hear. They’ll think I’m the worst mum in the world by then after all. So I’m writing it down now and I hope that one day they will read it. And grow up knowing that they are, and will always be, enough. You are equal We are all equal. Nobody is better or worse than you. Children at school may be more talented at a particular subject. You…

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Taking control of my relationship with a time thief

If you’ve ever watched Doctor Who, you’ll know that messing with time means trouble. There’s never enough hours in the day and then something comes along and steals the time you do have. It can’t just be me who loses hours each week to the time thief. But here’s the thing, I don’t want to end my relationship with it completely. It has its good points, but it’s time for a change. So come on, what is the time thief? I start off each day determined to get through my to-do list and make every minute count. But then I pick…

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