Bitchy women and a sexist society: the chicken or the egg?

Feminism, women’s rights, the gender pay gap. Incredibly important issues. As a female, as a parent and as a reasonable member of society, they matter to me. And yet on a particular day this week, six different incidents made me question my own feelings on these emotive topics. The women Picture the scene. You are happily making conversation with a female you don’t know particularly well. Passing the time of day, making small talk. Because you are both polite, reasonable people. Then, when you are mid-sentence, another female walks up and interrupts to talk to the person you are with.…

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The vortex of time

The uniform tick, tock of the clock. Time passes, never changing. And yet, somehow, it has warped. Whizzing by at the peak of the vortex, dragging slowly on the outer edge. A distorted perception, an unexpected reality. Time drags A mums sits on the bed, listening to her husband snoring. Exhausted. Willing the baby girl at her breast to go to sleep. To let her get some rest. Hours seem to pass in a sleepy haze. She moves the baby so gently but alas, she is awake again. Crying. Only comforted by her mum. And so the cycle goes on.…

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18 things for 2018

Blogging has taken a bit of a back seat over Christmas. The girls are off school for the best part of a month and I’ve had loads of work to do. So, I thought I’d mark the start of the New Year with a post about the 18 things I want from 2018. It’s sometimes helpful to write things down to gain a bit of perspective. Hopefully I’ll look back at this in the Summer and feel like I’m getting on okay. 1. Rest Every Christmas, I work up to the wire. I generally manage to enjoy Christmas day with…

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Do something amazing this Christmas and #sendshoes

Christmas has come to signify a time of excess. Eating, drinking, giving and receiving more than we need. But deep down, whether you are religious or not, Christmas isn’t really about that. It’s about kindness, compassion and making time for each other. Reaching out to people to wish them well or show your support. Doing good this Christmas While social media is quiet and blogging work is scarce, I thought it would be nice to help out a charity. Not a huge charity where any help would get lost in the ether. But a small one that does amazing things,…

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Connected devices and online security

This is a collaborative post.  We all know that familiar sinking feeling. When the laptop that doubles as a lifeline starts to play up. Slowing down, becoming unreliable. It starts to crash frequently and then one day, nothing. You can’t switch it on, a virus has wiped the data and thrown you out. Sometimes it’s reversible, but not always. Online security of connected devices Did you know that, just like computers, connected devices are vulnerable to security attacks? According to a recent survey by McAffee, 45% of people in the UK will be gifting tech gadgets this Christmas. 22% will…

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The loneliness of the mainland

The feeling had been stirring for a few weeks. Not a crippling emotional pain but a nagging sense of discontent. Nothing was quite going to plan. Cancelled work, stretched finances. Tired children, nagging doubts. And above all else, the dawning realisation that nobody really cared. Trying to speak It was the ongoing battle that tipped the scales of doubt. Countless attempts to tell somebody. Subconsciously willing them to stop what they were doing. Wishing with every fibre that one of them would rouse from the preoccupation with their own problems and listen. Just a few minutes, maybe an hour. Long…

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When charitable donations aren’t as generous as they sound

A twist of fate, a wrong decision, a stroke of bad luck. All of a sudden, you find yourself face to face with an almighty struggle. One unpaid invoice leads to rent arrears and a mountain of debt. Then, a charity may be your only hope. A food bank, or an organisation that helps people to get back on their feet. The big corporation and the charity I know enough about life’s cruel blows to understand that destitution often arrives through no fault of its victim. And that charities can be a lifeline in such a situation. And yet, I received an…

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