10 ways to build children’s water confidence

Swimming has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. As a child, I swam competitively for our local club. The training regime was brutal, we’d often be in the water by 6.30 am to fit in an hour and a half before school, as well as swimming again in the evenings and at weekends.

As I got older and life got in the way of serious training, I continued to swim a bit, competing for the university and a couple of masters clubs before transferring my skills to different areas. Then came open water swimming – a little paddle across the Solent and down the river Dart. This gave me a taste for open water and I went on to do aquathlons, triathlons and play water polo.

These days, swimming is more about the children than me. I get in once or twice a month on my own and still have grand plans to do an Ironman when the children are in school. But the one thing I do insist on is that the children are in the water with us regularly.

I’m not a swimming coach or teacher and I have no formal qualifications. But what I do have is two little girls that are happy in the water, one of whom was swimming unaided by the age of three. All of these tips are to be used under one to one supervision only.

1. Start young

You used to have to wait for vaccinations before a baby could start swimming, but these days pools are so clean that they can start at any age. If you’d like to start them young, chat to your GP to make sure they have no concerns. My girls both started at eight weeks old and have never been afraid of being in the water.

2. Swim together

I think that this is the most important thing of all when it comes to building children’s water confidence. If they see that you are happy and confident in the water, they will be too. Swimming together as a family when children are young will prevent any phobias of water as they get older.

3. Swim regularly

We try to get to the pool every weekend. That way, there is never a big gap where they lose water confidence. And if they have a bit of a fright – a big splash from a passer by or a tumble off a pool float – they don’t end up dwelling on it because they’re soon straight back in the water and the fright is forgotten.

4. Make it fun!

There is really no value in trying to force children to learn to swim at a young age. I know that swimming lessons for babies are really popular nowadays and I’ve seen all the photos of them swimming underwater. But I’ve also heard horror stories about children developing phobias from being forced under. I would personally prefer to get children in the pool on their own terms and let them play.

5. Use floating toys

Toys that float on top of the water are brilliant for getting children to reach towards things. When they’re wearing a buoyancy aid, this is perfect for encouraging them to let go of their carer or the side. As they get a bit more confident, reaching out for the toys is the first step towards using swimming strokes.

We love these Funky Floaties by SwimFin. They come in bags of four in a handy net bag, and are perfect for Libby to throw, chase and hold, making swimming great fun. She also plays with them in the bath, so bringing them to the swimming pool gives her something familiar to play with that she knows is safe and fun. They are lovely and soft, made from neoprene just like a wetsuit. They are brightly coloured and each one is a real little character. They are weighted so that they bob about upright in the pool, just like a little person treading water.

Hints and tips for building water confidence in children


Using toys can take a bit of getting used to and it won’t be for every child straight away. Lia had got really attached to her Funky Floaties before we took them swimming. In the pool, she got very upset when she let go of the toy and decided that she didn’t want to play with it in there. I think when she’s a bit older she will understand better that her toy isn’t going to come to any harm in the water so we’ll try using them again then.

6. Find the right buoyancy aid

I don’t personally like arm bands. I think they keep children a bit too buoyant and restrict them from using their arms. Early swimming is all about getting used to the water – but it is also a great time to start feeling what it’s like to use your arms and legs to move you along. Some people like to use a swimming costume with built in floats, or a float pack that goes on the back.

We tried a few different buoyancy aids with Libby and settled on the SwimFin. She has been using it since she was about 18 months old, although I’m not sure they are recommended for children that young. The fin is totally non-restrictive, and the better your swimming gets, the further the fin comes out of the water – until you’re not relying on it at all.

7. Take buoyancy aids off when children are ready

For quite a while, I could see that Libby was no longer relying on her SwimFin when she was swimming along in the water. What she was doing was using it to keep her upright when she was treading water. So I mentioned to Libby that she could have a go at swimming without the fin if she wanted to. At the time, she wasn’t ready so it wasn’t mentioned again.

That is until Libby decided that she didn’t need it any more – and she was right. The fin came off, and she swam a few strokes on her own. Each week she’d swim a little bit further. For us, there was a setback then when my husband had an accident and was unable to swim with us for a while. When I was taking both girls on my own, Libby had to go back to wearing the fin. Mercifully my husband is now back in the water, so Libby is able to swim unaided again. She can now manage to dive in and swim half a width under close supervision and without a buoyancy aid.

8. Use toys that sink

For very young children, it can be difficult to get the hang of bringing their face out of the water to breathe. As a result, much of their swimming will be done under the water. So until a child is confident enough to put their face in the water, they are unlikely to be able to swim. Diving down to get a toy is a fun way to get them used to being underwater.

We love these Dinky Divers from SwimFin. Because they stand up, it’s not too far for a child to dive down to get them in the shallow end of a standard pool. They are bright and colourful which makes them both easy to see and fun to play with. They are also really easy to get hold of so the child can go straight to them, grab them and get straight back up again. This keeps it fun and not too much like hard work.

Hints and tips on how to build confidence in the water with young children.

The other thing I really like about these is that they sink very slowly as they fill with water. So to get used to putting their face in and fetching something, children can grab them before they sink too deep. As they get more confident, they can wait a little longer before they fetch them, eventually picking them up off the bottom of the pool. These come in packs of four in a handy net bag that is fine to take on poolside.

9. Don’t be pushy

As an ex-swimmer, I know all about “those” swimming parents. You know the ones, their child has to be the first to learn to swim, win all their races and never have a day off training with a cold. When I think back to my swimming days, I can’t think of one child with pushy parents that kept swimming as they got older. Those children were swimming for their parents, not for their own love of the sport.

10. Enjoy the time together

Swimming is one of the few activities that the whole family can partake in together. Whether it’s swimming weekly with young children, getting into the pool on holiday, playing for the same water polo team or taking a dip together in the sea. Nobody is distracted by technology, work or life in general. It is the perfect way to enjoy each other’s company. Children will learn to swim in their own time, but a shared passion for the sport can be something that the whole family can benefit from for many years to come.

Learning to swim at a young age will ensure that children are safe around water and open up a world of sporting opportunities. 10 tips for parents looking to build water confidence in young children. Please note, the Funky Floaties and Dinky Divers were sent to us for the purpose of a blog post. However all views, opinions and tips are entirely my own and are not influenced or endorsed by SwimFin.

6 thoughts on “10 ways to build children’s water confidence

  1. martyn

    Love this post. Some used tips and I love the swimfin stuff too. Does make me a little sad though. I used to love swimming as a child and all the way through to an adult. I haven’t been able to for the last 2 years without major support. With this then I haven’t taken the boys. Always worry that they’ll miss out more because they don’t do it regularly. I know they go a few times with their mum though. Think I might see if I can get them some swimming lessons though; this has inspired me to push more for it!
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  2. Debbie

    Fab tips, Natalie. Being confident in the water could be the difference between life and death. My two learned to swim in the sea, as there aren’t any public pools open all year round on the island. We used to head down to the beach first thing, (being early risers this was about 7/8 o’clock) and enjoy a couple of hours on the beach. Our beaches are perfect for little ones as they are really shallow for quite some distance, so I would sit in the shallows with them and they would play, splash and fall into the water. When my husband was with us we would use armbands and take them outer deeper.

    I wouldn’t say my children swim like fish and my son does have trouble swimming with his head above the water because of he lacks curvature in his spine, but both are happy and confident in the water.

    I do love the funky floaties and would certainly have got something like that had they been around back then.


  3. Jenny - Monkey and Mouse

    This is a great post, I wish I had read something similar when O was small. I took him to the baby swim lessons, but he hated going under water and after the second time he developed a fear of it and I refused to put him under like all the other kids. It took him years to get over getting his face wet and going into the pool with us when he couldn’t touch the bottom. He finally became much happier in the water again at 3 years old and is now happily trying to swim with us in the learning pool, although we haven’t gone back to lessons again as I’m not sure if he would enjoy it with someone telling him how to swim. I think we will wait until next year and see if he would like to then. I wish we could go more often, but as we only have the one car and I’m not brave enough to take them on my own (they go opposite directions!) on the bus, I think that has definitely affected how happy A is in the water. He’s only just happy for us to have him in the learning pool, last year on holiday, he wouldn’t go deeper than his ankles! This is despite me being a very confident swimmer myself and being part of the local swimming club and training hard (the main reason I left the club!) throughout primary and secondary school. I like the idea of the swimfin and the toys, we’ll need to look into those I think. 🙂 x
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  4. A Cornish Mum

    Brilliant tips! I taught my two to swim, it took a long time though as I’m not an especially strong swimmer myself and it was difficult with the two of them on my own. We haven’t been swimming in months though eek you’ve given me the nudge to take them again!

    Stevie x
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